- No personal space
One of my close female friends recently broke up with her guy because he smothered her and refuse to give her space. Couldn’t go to the store, couldn’t go get her nails done, couldn’t do anything!!! Personal space is extremely vital for all of us.
We can’t be our true selves with others unless we get to spend personal and alone time with ourselves and do our own activities away from our significant other. “Doin You” and hanging out with your friends or people you are close to is necessary.
If you want to make your woman love and respect you more, give her the space she needs to grow on her own. It doesn’t make you a bad boyfriend or husband if you let your girl have her space and do her own thing!
- Being “unattached” or “emotionally unavailable”
Being unattached and emotionally unavailable is one of the worst things you can be to your significant other. She doesn’t want you to just hang out with her, go to fancy dinners with her, watch a movie with her and be “absent” during all of these things because you’ re not present.
Your woman wants you to be emotionally involved, she wants you to understand, she wants your love and affection, not your money etc.
People who are unattached and emotionally unavailable for too long with their significant others often end up being completely distant and disconnected. Be there for your woman, understand her sadness; encourage her, be her biggest fan. That’s all what she really wants.
- Trying to change her
Remember, to love your woman for the person she is, not the person you want her to be. Everyone should be loved for who we are. You shouldn’t be with someone who constantly wants to change everything about you. If the one you are with is trying to change you and refuse to love your imperfections, you will slowly become someone you are not and won’t be able to recognize who you are.
Trying to change your woman, is an indication that you’re not in love with her, but in love with the idea of her being the way you want her to be. People don’t fall in love and intentionally try to change the people they love. Love is patient, love is kind. Love makes no excuses.
When you truly and genuinely love someone, you love them for who they are and not what you can make them into. That sort of selfish love only leads to fights, arguments, regrets and eventually, breakups.
- Not giving her enough time
Time is most important commodity in the world. Time is one of the most precious gift you can give to the one you love. When you spend time with someone, you tell them that they’re important to you and their presence means a lot to you. People who tend to be “always busy” often end up alone and in-and-out of relationships.
Avoid being the man who does not have enough time to spend with his significant other. If you’re out here grinding and handling business, she will understand. But if you constantly develop a habit of not spending quality time with your woman and labelling it as “I’m just crazy busy right now”, she is going to see right through you and the thought that “my man doesn’t have any time for me” is going to hurt your woman more than anything.
- Comparing her with others
Comparing your woman to another woman is the most common reason women leave the men they love. It is important to keep in mind that you can’t compare one person to another. Everyone is unique and different in their own way and it is highly unfair to your woman if you’re comparing them to your ex or someone else. Just as bad comparing is complaining.
Complaining about what they don’t do and how are not like someone else is a recipe for disaster and a major turn off. It is also the quickest way to make your woman feel like she’s not appreciated for who she is. No one wants to feel like their every move will be judge or that they have to compete with others.
- Ignoring the small things
It is the small things that matter. The fanfare is cool but not the most important thing to your woman. People who appreciate and pay attention to the small things are the people who will always be happy in life. Those who appreciate the small things find happiness in the little things.
Those who only pay attention when it’s something big, are the people who won’t find long-term happiness. Learn to appreciate the small things and make your women feel appreciated
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Ladies, can you relate? Have you had similar experiences in your life? Have you experienced something different? Let me know about them in the comments below. And as always, stay strong and don’t give up on love!
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